These are the times of online dating. Thanks to the Bumble app and the few others that have let people engage with more humans while being sequestered at their homes during the lockdown. We all have craved love and realized the importance of having a stable company in our lives during these adverse times. All of us, irrespective of our sensibilities, love to be desired by the opposite sex and be the recipients of their attention. If you are on the bumble app too and looking to meet someone interesting and engaging, it is imperative you get swiped right by the people you like too. The prerogative to swipe right and initiate a conversation on the bumble app lies with the women. And we say, thank god for that. Read on to know what it is in a man’s profile that doesn’t score brownies with women and tempts them to swipe left. Maybe there is something you are doing unknowingly that is making your profile repulsive and is pushing women away rather than attracting them. Men, we say, make good notes of these points and avoid them in your bumble profile, for sure.
Things about Your Bumble Profile That Might Be Turning Women Off
1. Not having a clear profile pic – Yes, looks matter to women as well. For the men who think they are smart enough to fool the female bandwagon on the bumble app, sorry to declare, you are not. Men who intend to conceal their identity or not reveal it properly, either post blur images, group images or vague side poses as their profile pictures. Funnily enough, a few of the men these days even post pictures wearing a mask. How does one even expect a potential suitor to be interested in your profile by looking at a masked image? Be honest and straight. Put a clear, sharp image as your profile picture on the bumble app, if you wish women to swipe right. It helps the woman scrolling on the phone feel a little more assured about your profile.
2. Posting semi-nude or topless images– Women are not keen on men who put out their topless images on a dating app, for everyone to see publicly. It kind of gives them a hint as to what precisely the man is looking for. Even if a woman is also looking for a non-committal alliance, still she would not swipe right, because posting such images screams downright desperate and cheap. And for the women who are genuinely seeking a committed relationship or at least a dignified conversation, such profiles are a definite no-no.
3. Not clear about what you are seeking – A survey reveals that almost 75% of men declare their relationship preference as ‘don’t know yet’. And sadly enough, this percentage remains the same across age groups. A woman has no reason to swipe right on the profile of a man who still doesn’t know what is he on the dating app for or is still indecisive about his plans. This also hints to the woman that the man is trying to mislead her and is only on the app to while away his time. No woman, no matter what she is looking out for in terms of a relationship, would swipe right on a profile whom she knows is going to be a wastage of time and effort. Every woman expects clarity, honesty and transparency, no matter what destiny hold for the future together. Men need to be more decisive, chivalrous and straightforward with their intentions. Be honest about what you seek. The whole idea behind these dating apps is to bring forth people with like-minded aspirations on a common ground to connect and network.
4. Not giving out the basic details– It is a common observation that women tend to swipe more rights on bumble app on profiles that they feel are authentic and can be trusted. Not mentioning even the most basic of the details like age, location, occupation and height makes the other person think that either you are lying, are fake or just being too secretive. If you are not comfortable giving out even the basic, harmless details, then one cannot expect the other person to believe in your profile and feel interested to know you more. One doesn’t expect you to write a lot about yourself or give out everything, but mentioning vital information is undisputed.
5. Negative remarks or connotations in your profile– Being a misogynist, chauvinist or anti-feminist and putting it out loud and clear in your introductory paragraph is definitely not the most pleasant way to attract attention from the opposite sex. Do not get us wrong here. We are not asking you to be fake or misleading here. If you are anything of the above, that in itself is a turn-off but writing negatively about people or life in general in your profile is not a good way to introduce yourself. People prefer interacting with those who have a positive outlook and believe in looking at the brighter side of life, at least to begin with.
6. Using exaggerated vocabulary to describe yourself – Though words like sapiosexual, ambivert and epicurean are good to have in your vocabulary, you would not want the girl to refer to Thesaurus to understand your bio. Be simple and clear with what you intend to express. Throwing away big words in the face or putting out some researched quote from a scholar to express your thoughts would not do anything to impress the woman on the other end. Be genuine, real and uncomplicated while talking about yourself. Also, do mention the personality traits that define you and your areas of interest, but just highlighting your achievements and talking about yourself in elevated and exaggerated tones only amounts to bragging and nothing else. This really doesn’t do much to intrigue the woman about you.
As the final word, we would only like to say that put out 3-4 of your decent-looking images on the bumble app, write some realistic notes about you to acquaint the other person well and give out basic lifestyle details honestly. These are enough to attract the right set of women to swipe right on your profile. And also, do exactly mention what you are seeking rather than just saying ‘don’t know yet’. As they rightly say, ‘what you are seeking, is also seeking you.’
On that note, have a good time buzzing on the bumble app and hoping you find the bee you are looking for!