Have you felt that you are a little too emotional and sensitive a person? Or do people around you often tell you this? Do you find yourself overthinking and overanalyzing things often? Do you always find yourself at the losing end of any relationship status? Do relationships, in general, take a toll on your mental and emotional health? Well, then you must keep reading further as we decode for you the best relationship that you can ever share with someone and that is going to change your life for the better in all respects.
Human nature is complicated to the core. Yet, if you read enough and understand a few of the general workings of it, it becomes easier to find your solace and hit a balance in your dealings with other human beings. There are relationships that we are born with and then there are those that we forge during our lifetimes. They say every solid relation that you have (we mean the blood ties here) or anyone you ever interact in your life, it all a pre-destined affair. No two people ever cross paths in their lives without the intervention of the Gods up there. Whether the association leads to some sweet/bitter experiences, some learning or just an exchange of energies, there is always a reason when and why you meet someone. You cannot choose who you cross paths with in life or decide to build a relationship, until and unless the stars dictate the event to happen.
Talking about the relationships that we are born with, there is not much that falls into our control there. Good or bad, blood relationships are almost like the bodies we are born with. One can either be blessed to have a very understanding and supporting set of parents and siblings or have a strained relationship with them that manifests itself poorly in your overall bearing. Even with your spouse and children, no matter how much you invest yourself, there are always times one feels undervalued, underappreciated or being taken for granted. Even friends are not always there to stay. Consider yourself lucky if you have at least a couple of people in your life you can open your heart out to and not feel wrongly judged or misconstrued.
So, if all this is the case and humans around us serve more to cause emotional upheavals and anxieties then which is the best relationship in the world? If they are all there to drain our energies and leave us feeling exhausted and deprived, then which is the relationship that nurtures us unconditionally? Who is that one person we are the closest to? Someone we can share our thoughts with without the fear of being judged, abused or misconceived. Someone who will always have our back and not leave us even when life throws melons or God forbid adversity befalls. Isn’t the real test of a good relationship is that how fulfilling and selfless it is? How it leads to our growth on all levels? Which is the best relationship in the world? Is it between a mother and her child, siblings, love partners, married couple or friends? Trust is blindly on this when we say that it is the ‘relationship with self’ that is the most important one in this whole wide world.
“Love yourself unconditionally, just as you love those closest to you despite their faults.’ – Les Brown
The most important lesson to learn early on in life is that the relationship you share with yourself is going to determine your overall functioning and also how you come across in various facets of your life. Even your relationship with others is a reflection of your equation with your own self.
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection”
If you have realized over the course of your life, the most time that one spends is with their own thoughts and mind. People come and go, even the permanent relationships change over time. We cannot really control others or how they behave with us. What we can control is how we behave and treat ourselves. It is the sad irony of life that we are more forgiving and loving towards others than we are to our own selves. Doubting our caliber, intentions and reprimanding ourselves time and again for the smallest of lapses is a normal norm of human behavior. But isn’t it so unfair? Whereas the one relationship that stands by us through the thick and thin of everything is our self. Even the closest of loved ones might leave our side, but our being never leaves us bereft.
Often, in an attempt to please others and while being entangled in this vicious circle of emotional relationships and ties, we put ourselves on the backburner and neglect our needs. The most important relationship is the one we share with ourselves and this makes it imperative to empower, nurture and build our own internal systems. Be strong, hold yourself together through everything. Believe that “you are all that you have and you are all that you would ever need.”
Be as loving to yourself as you might be to anyone else you consider a piece of your heart. Make peace with things you can’t change and the ones that you can, leave no stone unturned to make them a success. Believe in yourself unconditionally. Most times, people won’t trust your capabilities or put you down or maybe not even consider your issues worthy of their attention. Rather than vying for other’s consideration, make yourself your priority. If you can be a coach to other’s life, you can very well be navigating yourself through the chaos of your own existence.
“Be proud of who you are, and not ashamed of how someone else sees you.”
Never think any less of you or leave your own back, no matter how brutal the world around maybe. Yes, relationships do have the power to make or break an individual but if you are internally strong and have worked upon building a robust relationship with your own mind, nothing can defeat you. When you are happy and content in your own mind, the whole world around seems like sunshine. It is all within us. Our creator has made us sufficient and complete in our form. All we need is to realize the same and nurture it wholeheartedly. The effort and emotions that we invest in others, try putting in even fifty percent of the same in fostering yourself; it is going to yield much richer dividends.
We hope you have got the answer to which is the best relationship in the world. Leaving you with this note on self-love:
“I celebrate myself, and sing myself.” – Walt Whitman
Keep loving yourself.